Sometimes our doctors are wrong.
Don’t take this out of context. I personally love mine and trust that in their field, they are the expert. But at the end of the day, it’s your body. You have to know what works for you. To consider what they are advising, and to determine how that matches up to your specific infertility plan.
Plan. HA! We all know there is no plan and that our bodies are going to ultimately do whatever the f they want – BUT that doesn’t change the fact that there is a sequence of events in which you and your partner have discussed to complete your road to conception. And in that plan, sticking to your guns is an important piece of the shit-puzzle.
The best example I have of this, is the one (and only) time I deviated from my Doctor’s advice. She recommended I use medication again for our third IUI. I had been on 50mg of Clomid for both IUI one and two. During that time, I gained ten pounds, was an emotional mess, and was overall moody AF.
On the second IUI, we added in a trigger shot (Ovidrel) to force ovulation. I can’t recall if there were any specific side effects of this, but I do know that I was not myself.
After those failed, we took a month off to reset before deciding to swing for number three. My Doctor advised we use the medicine yet again. I decided that I wanted to try it with no medical assist. We discussed it and she agreed that since history had proved I ovulate 1-2 mature follicles of my own each month, I would likely be fine without Clomid. However, she wanted me to go through with giving myself the trigger shot.
When the time for my day 10 check-up came, the nurse was pleased to see two mature follicles on my left ovary. I met with my Doctor immediately following who advised that I go home and use the trigger shot right away, in preparation for an early morning IUI the following day.
Something in my gut advised me otherwise, and after an emotional call to my husband (whatever you think is best), my mother (I don’t know hun, I’d probably listen to your Doctor) and a close friend (listen to your body, you know what’s best for you), I decided to not pickup the shot at CVS, and go for it unmedicated.
Low and behold, that was the cycle I became pregnant! Now, as discussed in a previous post, that pregnancy was unsuccessful, but I DID become pregnant – if even for a brief moment in time. I listened to my tired, bloated body, and decided to give it a rest. And in that instance, it worked.
Were the two related? Maybe. Maybe not. But at the time, it was the choice I had to make for myself when my body was tired of the foreign bodies it was consuming.
Our fourth IUI we returned to medication (after we moved to NYU’s Fertility Center) with no success. However, after discussing my concerns regarding the negative side effects felt on Clomid, I switched to Letrozole – which I HIGHLY recommend.
In the end, it’s important to speak up. Voice concerns. Listen to your body.
Sometimes that’s easier said than done, and so we just take direction and do (I am THE classic do-as-told patient), which is fine on most occasions. No doubt our doctor’s have our best interest at heart. Just keep in mind that they are not YOU. They are not feeling the feels that you are going through. And they don’t know when something’s not working if you don’t tell them.
So next time, don’t suffer in silence. Ask what can be done to make it better.